Hello My Beautiful Brides/Grooms, and clients,
Wedding planning is stressful enough without having to add the current world situation of the coronavirus pandemic. This is the day you’ve been planning for months, weeks and maybe even years. I get it, I understand. It’s okay to be confused, sad or even frustrated. Take a moment and address your feelings – they are real and shouldn’t be pushed aside like they are not important. Now, take a deep breath and take a moment and go back to the reason you were having this event in the first place: You have found the love of your life, and when you started planning your wedding you knew the vows “for better for worse, for richer for poorer, in sickness and in health.” This is the time to put those future vows into practice. Our country and the world are going through a dark time – people are sick, stocks are dropping, businesses are closing down. Right now is the “sickness”, “poorer” and “worse” part of life. But guess what!? You have someone, someone who wants to walk these next days with you, beside you. There is hope and that is something to be excited about right now. You have your person, and you get to get through it together.
Recently I have had many clients contact me about postponing their wedding date. Should they cancel? Should they wait? When is the right time to do that? My advice, why wait to get married? You have the one, so get a few close friends or family members together and do your vows, take the stress off your shoulders and celebrate! Then go ahead and pick a date for the full reception. Contact your venue and see what future dates are available and go ahead and set another date (keep in mind a lot of brides will be doing this so consider having the reception and celebration on a Thursday or Friday) You can still even have a ceremony and all the flowers, food and dancing, but this way your life with the one you love isn’t put on hold. I heard once that the Queen of England has an official birthday and a royal birthday – they celebrate the day she was born and the day she started her leadership. Why not have that for your wedding?! Now is your “official wedding” and then have your “royal wedding.”
Below I have made a list of recommendations on how to change your wedding date, and how to pick the future date. Keep in mind right now officials are saying 8 weeks, so I would pick a date that is a good bit further than that 8 weeks time frame to be safe.
1. Call your key vendors: wedding planner (your planner can help you with this as well), venue, and the photographer first. Find a few dates that they are all available on in the future (keep an open mind and be willing to have a day other than a Saturday helps). Pick 2-3 dates that work for all key vendors.
2. Contact the FEW key people you want to attend (NOT the entire wedding party or guest list) to see if those dates work for them. This can be parents/immediate family members and maid-of-honor/best man.
3. Call your florist and designers, see if the dates you are considering work for them as, most should be able to be a little more flexible. Some flowers may change season so again keep an open mind and let your designers have a creative license on your wedding vision.
4. Music/entertainment/band: see if that date works for them.
5. Call the rental company with the new date.
6. Call or text your bridal party, family and closest friends with the new date. Let them know before announcing to all guests.
7. Do you have a wedding website? (minted.com is my personal favorite). Set up a new RSVP section on the site for the new date, and create an announcement on the home page letting guests know there is a date change. If your website has your guests’ email address, send a special announcement via email.
8. Ask your stationery designer to create a postcard or a simple mail-out that you can send to all your guests, have her put the RSVP to the website and be sure she puts any changes, dates, locations, time, etc on your mail out. There is no need to do a whole new invitation!
9. Social Media – I don’t think you should announce the exact date change on social media some people may not have been invited, but I would do a post that says you are changing your wedding date to a future date. Maybe post a fun happy laughing picture of you and your fiancé, this will help lighten the mood, and bring hope to everyone who sees the post.
Whether you choose to have an official wedding and a royal wedding or just wait for the vows and celebration to be all done at the postponed date, keep heart, your wedding is going to happen and you are and will still be marrying the person of your dreams!